The Chase

Watercolor running people

Last night, while relaxing with the iPad, I came across something that really affected me. This is unique, and probably the beginning of a trend.


It seems there is a new “super model” on the scene. She’s becoming very popular, very quickly. She is a stunning woman with a flawless ebony complexion, perfect figure, and clever social media posts.

But, you will never see her on a runway. Why?

Because she doesn’t exist. She is a computer-generated figure, conceived by a 28-year male designer, who also posts on her behalf. “Shudu” has over 40,000 Instagram followers, many of whom don’t realize that she isn’t an actual person.

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This is Shudu. She’s about 1 year old. This is the only way we will ever see her…
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…because she’s not real, just like the perfection she’s selling.

Why did this affect me?

Because an image like this is one more thing that distracts from what’s really important.


It’s unfortunate, but we live in a world that wants us to feel like we aren’t good enough, and never will be. That mindset creates holes and gaps in all of us (even though many of us know better) and businesses thrive on it: Cosmetics, weight-loss, self-help, money making schemes, fashion, electronics, cars, and so many others are all about making us feel better about ourselves.

And it works! But only as a fleeting euphoria. Because just like Shudu, it’s not real.

Then, there are the other ways people fill the holes: fame, power, materialism, comparison, competitiveness, food, and drugs…to name a few.

Like the others, these, too, are hollow and temporary.


What you’ll never see advertised are the real answers to filling those gaps, because they last, they’re reachable…and they’re FREE. So…

  • What if we were kinder, more often? Just because it is the nice thing to do.
  • What if we cared more about letting others shine? Just because everyone deserves that chance.
  • What if we supported one another, instead of comparing and competing?
  • What if we served for the benefit of others and not for the accolades that might come back to us?
  • What if we stepped out of ourselves more often, allowing for empathy and love?
  • What if we focused more on our many blessings and less on what we think we’re missing?
One of my favorite movie quotes, so powerful in its simplicity.

These are the gap fillers, my friends. These are the ways to fill the holes. And they have nothing to do with looks, weight, wealth, wardrobe, age, power, and all of those things society says we must have in order to be worth something.

So have the courage to be kind. Have the courage to truly care about others. Have the courage to focus on what’s real. Have the courage to focus on what matters. Have the courage to focus on what lasts.



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